Infertility can put a lot of pressure on your mental and emotional stability. People don't always realize how taxing their hopes, expectations, and potential disappointment can have on them. Not only does your struggle affect your personal state of mind, but it can bleed into the health of your relationship with your spouse as well.
Infertility is diagnosed among millions of couples today, and though stress isn't necessarily it’s cause, it sure can be the culprit of producing stress for you and your loved one. As you continue to read negative pregnancy tests or watch as your friends build their own families, it helps a lot to find a way to cope and surround yourself with people who understand exactly what it is that you are going through.
When you are hurting, it is so easy to feel alone, but you are not. Support groups and counselors will help you to see that you have so many reasons not to give up on your infertility treatment, and there are always more options available for you to explore.
The main focus for you during this time should be on what can be done, or else it can be very easy to sink into infertility depression.
Maintain Your Mental And Spiritual Health With These Tips
Take Care Of Yourself
Start by having a discussion with your doctor about how treatment is affecting you. If you are feeling overwhelmed or anxious, they should have some advice and references for people they trust that you can talk to.
In general, some practices to help maintain your emotional health during treatment include:
- exploring your spirituality and connection to yourself by practicing meditation or yoga, listening to inspiring music, and finding ways to spend time outside
- reducing as much chaos in your environment as possible/removing clutter and any unnecessary stresses getting in the way of your piece of mind
- not signing yourself up for too much or stretching yourself too thin/ keeping your schedule simple
- keeping in touch with nature and activities that have always made you feel good/trying to avoid too much tv or computer time
- discovering how you can make your work environment more nurturing by lighting candles or setting up shop next to a window so you are experiencing something pleasant and peaceful
Care For Your Relationship
Of course, these difficulties can also create some stress on your relationship with your partner. When it comes down to it, this relationship needs all of the support you can give it. Not in a way that causes feelings of pressure, but those of nurture.
You are each other’s rock and you cannot lose sight of that fact.
Couples therapy can help to ensure that no communication is being lost between the 2 of you. Partners may disagree about what is the best course of treatment to use or 1 of you may be hesitant about seeking medical advice at all. A trained therapist knows how to navigate through these type of concerns.
Therapy can also help the 2 of you as you decide how long you wish to carry on with fertility treatments. It never hurts to get an outside, unbiased opinion, especially when the person has extensive knowledge on the topic.
It May Be Time To Seek Fertility Counseling
Fertility counseling is always available for anyone who would like it at any point during their journey. It is highly recommended if:
- you have experienced a pregnancy loss or unsuccessful IVF cycle of Assisted Reproductive Technologies
- you are considering taking a new approach to fertility treatment
- you are considering ending treatment without getting pregnant or due to a failed IVF cycle
- your treatment has resulted in a multiple pregnancy
- you are considering or have decided on a pregnant via third party donation
- you have achieved pregnancy soon after experiencing a loss
Join A Support Group
People are often tentative about attending support group therapy, but it is actually extremely helpful when it comes to dealing with the effects of infertility. Within these groups, people from all walks of life share their:
- coping tips
- doctor recommendations
- and options for new treatments
Social support can help you move past stress and get over your worries of feeling judged by others. You can also reach out to family and friends for emotional support, but they may not necessarily have the experience and sensitivity that you require to to feel heard and understood.
If this is the case and these people do want to help, encourage them to become informed about infertility and maybe even visit a support group with you.
What Does All Of This Mean?
As you deal with the ups and downs of the emotions that inevitably come along with infertility, don't deny the opportunities that you are offered to help carry you through this time.
Empower yourself by keeping in the know and learning as much as you can about infertility treatments, and never hesitate to ask for help or guidance when those emotions arise.
Your health is the most important thing, there is always a way to take the next step, you just have to choose the healthiest and most productive option. If you feel lost, talk to someone who you can be sure will understand, and they will point you in the right direction.