Speaking with your partner about infertility is, no doubt, a sensitive topic. A really difficult part of it is that infertility could exist within either one of you, or even both of you.
Imagine this for a moment -- You’re sitting in the bathroom waiting on the seconds to pass. You’ve been here before. It’s an all too familiar scene. You and your partner are hoping, perhaps praying, and you’re both anxious. You’ve done “all the right things,” and ultimately bought a pregnancy test. All you want is to see the two lines show up that let you know that you’re pregnant. Sound familiar?
There are a lot of misconceptions when it comes to infertility. One of the most common ones is that it’s mainly a female issue, but the reality is that achieving pregnancy is not solely reliant on the female alone. It takes two to tango as they say.
It’s incredibly common for people to assume that their difficulty getting pregnant is because of the woman’s fertility. This is due to the awareness of a woman’s biological clock running out, something that men don’t have to worry about. However, there are many issues that contribute to fertility complications in both men and women.
A lot of people tend to think of infertility as a woman’s issue. After all, it is the woman who is not getting pregnant. For some reason her body is not accepting the sperm. However, this is not always because of the woman and her reproductive system. “About one out of every three cases of infertility is due to the man alone.” This can be very difficult for a man to hear -- that his sperm isn’t working properly. Infertility is not an easy thing for anyone, no matter who it concerns.
If you are having difficulty getting pregnant with a second child, it is possible that you could be experiencing secondary infertility. If this is the case, either you or your partner has gone through a physical change that has affected your ability to conceive again. It is important not to jump to this conclusion, however. You will want to be sure you have been trying for at least a year before considering this as a possibility. If you are over 35, than you will want to investigate this possibility after 6 months. However, once you have reached this point, it is time to see a specialist.
Women are not the only ones responsible for taking care of their overall health in expectation of a successful pregnancy. A woman’s reproductive organs may be fully functioning, but if the male’s sperm is not healthy, fertilization can be very difficult.
It’s not always easy to face the fact that something may not be working properly in our systems, however, it is not uncommon. Don’t lose faith, there are a number of easy adjustments a man can make to increase his sperms’ performance.